Continued from part 1…
It was a wake up call for me to judge people by their actions, not their words. It was like finally my emotions caught up to what my brain had known for a few months. And it progressed FAST. After that point, every crazy thing she did repulsed me. Like, it turned me off to her as a person. I was like no, I don’t want to be with you. I don’t want to work through things with you. You are nuts.
After we broke up she contacted me every so often with a bunch of random crap, trying different ways to hook me again. I ignored all of it. She’s so manipulative that I know I can’t even have a normal conversation with her. Text message? Delete. Email? Delete. Phone call? Ignore.
We had one conversation over IM a few weeks after we broke up and she was talking about the possibility of us getting back together. I was like no. And she tried all her methods to tug at my heart strings and everything, and I was like no. And it felt awesome, because I knew it was the right decision for me.
So to answer your question, yes, I would give up on someone who isn’t the kind of person I want to be with. Even if I’m “under their spell.” Eventually the resentment will build until you’re not only sick of the relationship, but also sick of yourself for putting up with it.
Like I look back at that relationship and while it was a great learning experience, I actually get disgusted when I think about what I put up with.
So at the time, yeah, but I was weak then. But now? Hell no.
You know this woman is crazy. Stop focusing on the awesome moments when she’s giving you what you want (like the high from a drug) and start considering the stress and how much she’s screwing with your life and how you can’t trust her, and you don’t want someone like her in your life, and she would presumably be a terrible mother.
That was a big one for me, too. Even though I don’t want to have kids anytime soon, my crazy ex would have been a TERRIBLE mother. And realizing that was the beginning of me pulling away from her.